Information and reading is my passion…and this morning I realize that I probably suffer from “FOMO”, defined as, “fear of missing out”.
Missing out on what???
Probably not really all that much but in a world of social media it can seem like more than it really is.
I think that growing up in and around NYC set me up for becoming a victim of “FOMO” because no matter where or what I was doing I was always missing out on something!
It was simply a fact of life that I accepted living in the “city that never sleeps”.
That was the reality before social media …now it seems like you think or feel you are involved when you are not involved at all…I guess it is a type of “virtual” involvement.
Anyway, I feel a whole lot better that I have diagnosed myself with “FOMO”. I now understand why, when I learned that a very good friend of mine was flying to Chicago a couple of weekends ago I felt that I was missing out when I did not hear anything from him…and then when I read on Facebook that there was a “surprise party” I really felt more out of the loop….
The fact is it was a family event. Guess what? I am not really family although I feel like family at times. So I was not missing out because I was not ‘in’ in the first place.
WHAT??? This is very sick! Right?
“FOMO” rears its ugly head again and again but now that I know this is what I suffer from …it puts ‘stuff’ like this in perspective.
Thanks again New York Times!
“My problem is emblematic of the digital era. It’s known as FOMO, or “fear of missing out,” and refers to the blend of anxiety, inadequacy and irritation that can flare up while skimming social media like Facebook, Twitter, Foursquare and Instagram. Billions of Twitter messages, status updates and photographs provide thrilling glimpses of the daily lives and activities of friends, “frenemies,” co-workers and peers.
The upside is immeasurable. Viewing postings from my friends scattered around the country often makes me feel more connected to them, not less. News and photographs of the bike rides, concerts, dinner parties and nights on the town enjoyed by people in my New York social circle are invaluable as an informal to-do list of local recommendation.”