“Infidelity… It is indeed our secret epidemic until the next celebrity like Arnold Schwarzenegger’s with his or her tragic saga unfolding, rivets the nations attention to the fact that betrayal, in all of it’s various forms, is all too alive and well in marriages across the country.
The question many are asking is this:
Can a marriage actually be saved following an affair? Is it really possible to survive infidelity or is a divorce inevitable?
In our book, “Surprised by Love” (www.surprisedbylove.com) Julie and I address and answer that question head on with a resounding – yes! It is very possible if you are willing to do the work necessary to heal and redesign the relationship that’s been damaged by the affair……
The real question is “How do you define love?” and “Is your definition of love large enough to encompass profound failure?”. The only limitations on love are those we place on it; either that of the imagination or lack of in this case, where possibility is foreclosed on due to overwhelming emotion that is not as well managed as it can be.
I loved this article…I believe that sometimes a marriage can survive an affair but it really has to strong to begin with.
More that a few years back Kathie Lee Gifford suffered a betrayal…it seems that her marriage has survived. It seems that it took time and a lot of soul searching to make things work after Frank Gifford’s indiscretions.
As one young woman said to me…”oh, when you marry a sport’s figure what does a woman expect?” They are notoriously known as womanizers…that sort of thing does not really end after marriage in many cases.
I would like to think that couples can get back together and be stronger than ever but I do not think that is realistic…